There’re things we often don’t want to think about, but the truth, the sad reality is that they happen in real life. Maybe you haven’t imagined what you would do if you found out your partner cheated on you and betrayed your trust!
No question this would badly hurt. You will be badly broken and might resort to a violent reaction.
You might fantasize about approaching the perpetrator, disciplining him/her for breaking your relationship and walking away triumphantly.
It’s easy and funny – yes, it’s the actual fantasy! But, will you have achieved anything? In reality this would be no milestone. A step in the opposite direction to say the least.
Infidelity hurts and destroys marriages but there’s the other bit that’s often overlooked; it can be a tool to rebuild a stronger and happier marriage. The road to gaining the trust that was ripped off may be rough but for long as the connection, feelings and love exists, you can overcome this and get out of it stronger.
If you have been in this situation and wants to get things back on track, this article will give you a clear cut direction on the steps you will need to follow.
Discover the cause for cheating
It’s important to communicate openly and let your partner explain why they found the need to cheat. Maybe it’s something they were not getting from you or they felt neglected. Understanding the root cause of the infidelity can help you move past the cheating to a stronger relationship.
It is important to keep an open mind and not ask questions you don’t need answers to or those that will hurt you more.
Have a gratitude list
However much you may feel hurt, its good remember the reason why you fell in love with that person in the first place. Practicing gratitude and the little things that you appreciate about your partner can form a basis for a relationship transformation. When we think of the things we are grateful for we always tend to grow closer to each other. It helps more when you voice your appreciation, everyone likes that once in a while.
Deep emotional intimacy
More times than not, cheating is almost never about sex but about meets that go unmet. When your partner feels like you are not giving them enough of your time and attention they tend to seek it elsewhere. Infidelity in fact can lead to a deeper level of emotional intimacy by spending a lot of time together and being vulnerable leading to a stronger relationship. Doing things that you have common interest in together also helps to move past the infidelity quicker and more effectively.
If you are willing to save the relationship then it means you must make time to listen to all the reason you are given even when it hurts. When someone cheats most of the time they tend to have excuses for doing so. Infidelity gives a couple a chance to practice active listening and taking turns to hear what the other has to say. Ensuring your message is passed across and forms a basis to fall back in love again.
Believe it or not, infidelity builds trust as much as it breaks it. When you give your word about not cheating again and stick to it and do everything possible to ensure the relationship works, your partner regains the trust. This brings the couple together and makes them want the best for the relationship which eventually leads to a stronger union.
So there you have it, as much as it hurts to be cheated on it can be a building block to a much more beautiful relationship if you give it a chance.