How I Caught My Husband Cheating and How My Life Changed!
I was with my husband for 13 years and we had children.
My husband was a cheater, and I knew it. But for some stupid reasons I had put up with it. I don’t know why but I think it is because:
1.) I am saddened to think about him being with other women. I know, you think I am a bit crazy right? But I don’t think I am alone. Sadly I even though I knew he was out screwing other women, I was happy to know he came home to me. Ugh…
2.) I believe I am a pretty insecure person. I had also put on some weight which made me feel even worse. I was in a place where I thought no one would want to be with a person like me. I felt lonely, and the thought of starting over with another person made me have anxiety. I dealt with his cheating because I loved him that much! PATHETIC!
So now let’s get to the point where finally after years I started to get really sick of this charade.
After feeling too much betrayal, worrying all the time if something happened to him, and just plain tired of the arguing, I decided I was no longer going to turn a BLIND eye to this madness.
A light finally went off in my head and in that moment I knew it was time to get the proof I needed and to deal with this head on. It was time to end this bullshit once and for all.
Here’s what I did:
1.) First I pulled phone logs from our phone bill. This was easy, in fact I could do it online just by logging into our account. But the phone bill in the mail was also there. I went through all the numbers and there were a few that were popping up that I never saw before. At first there were no REAL red flags, but I wrote all the numbers down anyway. I suppose it might have been easier just to grab his cell phone when he was sleeping and check his call logs but anyway I got the numbers I needed.
2.) Now, I had to track who or where that number came from. I needed to get the evidence I needed. So after searching long and hard I found a really good reverse phone lookup site called ReverseVerify.com.
They were able to give me pretty much all the info I needed to catch that cheating bastard red handed. But the info I got was only a starting point of my “investigation”. Basically what I did is I took my list of phone numbers I found on the phone bill earlier and entered each one of the “suspicious” ones into the reverse verify reverse phone lookup tool.
This was the first step and it was able to tell me the name associated to each of those phone numbers. I was also able to see the address. Of the 10 or so numbers I entered into the search tool only 2 of them came back suspicious, the rest were people I knew or business numbers. Those 2 names I got were both women and one of them was a lady he works with so I immediately assumed she was the one stealing my husband and I knew where she lived…but in fact I was completely wrong. It was the other name. But you will love HOW I caught them!
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First I took the name of the person that the reverse verify phone lookup tool gave to me and then I entered it into the Reverse Verify People Search tool which was able to give me even more information on who my husband had been talking to. It was able to give me pictures of online profiles, and best of all I got a couple social profiles as well. At that point I got her job information from the linkedin profile I got on that search.
Now I basically had her name, where she lives and works. Now for the GRAND finale….
He would always tell me in the morning if he would be working late…so this particular morning he said he was going to be working late and so after his work hours were over I made damn sure I was parked a few houses down from her home. (the address I got from Reverse Verify).
I said I wasn’t going to wait more than an hour to see if he arrived there, but withing 20 minutes of him being done his regular work hours, he had actually arrived at HER HOUSE!!? I definitely was not the type of person to confront this situation because I am kind of scared of conflict, but I took a few pictures on my cell, and got evidence he was there.
When he got home that night I asked him how his late shift was, and he said fine. I asked if he went anywhere else after work, he said no. I made sure to ask him a few times in different ways, just to give him a chance to tell the truth. (which I knew he wouldn’t.)
Then I finally got the nerve to confront him directly and show him the pictures. He was completely caught and there was no way he could deny it. He ended up admitting it and trying to apologize but this was finally the last straw and we ended up getting a divorce because of this, and now I live with my children.
I never felt so free, and I ended up losing 35 pounds and my career excelled! I never realized it but all that bottled up negative energy was dragging me down physically, professionally and mentally.
The moral of my story is don’t ever think you should just settle. Deal with your conflict head on, get the evidence you need first, be smart in getting the proof you need and bust that CHEATING BASTARD!
19 thoughts on “How I Caught My Husband Cheating and How My Life Changed!”
I wanna know if my man is cheating on me
Girl check on that, cause man are pathological lier..my man believe in his lies and he thinks that he’s telling the truth.
I believe my wife is cheating on me but I can’t prove it. She never wants sex any more, she just keeps saying oh we will soon. That has been going on since last September.
What should i do?
Divorce her…” trust me”, she cheating.. what you can do is test her don’t ask her for sex. Just go for it and see what she does.
Same here September 2015,”” it h been a constant battle and lying and saying that I was crazy and that it was me,I worshiped the ground he walked on and he’s mean and hateful and demeaning and I told him that he was beautiful every that comment that he ever gave me I gave you a good comment back ,yes he is cheating and never loved me ,,, fact sad sad and don’t know what to do I am broken hearted Heather
Hey Troy, I have the same exact problem, only it’s all on line. At least I think so. The sad part is our society, marriage and many other things are falling a part because of all the new technical things they can use. All I can say is, don’t waste your time on your wife.. Start going out, be with your friends and let her know by your actions your not waiting around until she say’s, oh I found someone I love and blah, blah, bah, or the sob story, I was board, or I won’t do it again but they will. Also, the person who is cheating will try and put the blame on the party who is not. That’s shameful. They need to take responsibility for what they did and if there was a problem, instead of cheating, the person should grow up, talk with their spouse to straighten things out, to resolve the problem. They need to take responsibility for what they did. IF you love her do some investigation, find out and then decide if you really want to stay or leave and find someone who will be true to you and you only. I’m currently making plans to move on, but my partner doesn’t know it yet. However, I did throw in a word to him saying, I do have a room mate lined up and all sudden they cared and wanted to know who is it? I said, “Why in the world would you care after what your doing and have done”?. My partner didn’t know how to answer that one. Also remember there are so many scammers on the internet it’s ridiculous. The whole deal is sad. 20 years might be down the drain and since it’s been 2 and after years, I’m done. I’ve had enough punishment for a lifetime. Good luck who ever get’s him cuz this isn’t his first time doing this. Life is to short to be playing games with another persons heart. We could be here one day in life and gone the next. None of us know when we will be called home so live life to it’s fullest and find someone who truly loves you.
Lord that sounds familiar! Only cheating is NOT in my husband’s nature & I have believed in him 100% for almost 30 yrs, so when it happened after 23 yrs of marriage needless to say I was….I don’t know if there’s even a word that would adequately describe the humiliating shock, rage & pretty much homicidal anger that took over!
I agree cheating. Definitely!
However, if you want your marriage to work I would seek help with councilor together.
If she is not willing, then divorce her. There are so many woman out there who would love to fall in love with a true guy. It’s so hard to let go of those we THINK we love, but is this how you want to be treated? Believe me I understand since I have a cheating husband. The lies, the phone numbers and so much more. I would be gone in a minute , but I’m stuck right now until I get a few things done..
Ask yourself this, do you want peace, love and fun times to share things with? Or do you want constant stress wondering, worrying where she is & what’s going on, and so on? Also, will you ever be able to trust her again if you did know? Would it make a difference in what you would do? You deserve to be treated with respect, love and honor just like it states “Two become one” when married, let no man tear this union a part. Don’t let her step all over you. Get out while you can! Run as fast as you can! I know it’s hard believe me, but in the end when you find that one special true love that can be true, & will love you in return, then you will think, why did I wait so long to divorce her.
My man is cheating on me. He told me himself that he talking to my sister’s ‘n law.”which is my brother’s wife. He said he wasn’t going to hurt me again. He lied.. he ruined my Christmas thtee years ago. That’s when he told me he messing with her. He’s doing it again, I track the cal logs all I see was her number… we been together for 18yrs.
Thought of attaching a GPS to his car to track where they meeting?
As long as your name is on the car that is a great idea. I did it but I bought one you could remove and charge and reattached after after it was fully charged. It is a great tool and it really opened my eyes to his …. sleeping choices . Lol right! Anyway I bought it off amazon and you can get the box to place the tracker in side. It is water proof and the magnets on the carrier box is wonderful. You can attach it under the car where it cannot be seen. And remove in about 2 seconds. The live updated will go to your cell and it’s crazy accurate.
robinson.buckler@ (yahoo). com did a love spell for me about 3 days ago and boyfriend started loving me again…
My boyfriend of 7 years went out of town to work with his boss.
He was supposed to be back in one month. Which was fine with me.
Well he returned early 2 weeks.
I was excited to see my boyfriend since I was already missing him alot. We do not live together.
We had plans with eachother that evening upon his return from working out of town. We both agreed that he would come to see me first thing.
He called me and asked me if I was ready to see him?… I said “yes”….. As I was waiting for him to come by my house, time was going by: I was expecting him to meet me within 20 minutes from the time we spoke to eachother on the phone.
1 hour went by , Then 2 , 3, hours later I text him asking what was going on?
He replied with an excuse that he was having his alignment fixed on his vehicle by a mechanic friend of his.
Yet it was 12:30 a.m. at night. Dark out.
I personally couldn’t understand why he didn’t call me to let me know he had a change in plans. Why would he decide to have his alignment fixed at the same time he was supposed to come see me.?
Basically he FLAKED OUT on me & LIED.!!!
I am hurt and for some reason I believe he is seeing someone else. ..
What should I do.???
Girl!!! He is cheating. No question. If you can you should look at the phone grt the numbers you don’t recognize. Take a screen shot with your phone and get an app called BeenVerified. You can look up everything on there. It gives you anything you need. If all you have is a name you can look that up to. It cost about 19 bucks a month but if you can get the job done in a trial period with BeenVerified you don’t pay anything. I was with my boyfriend for 17 yrs. I totally get where you are coming from. Another thing I did was I planted a small Digital voice recorder under the passenger seat in his car. I had to put it in a sock and attach it to the under the seat to prevent it from sliding around . I got all I needed from that but it was only one sided conversations, until she decided to ride with him in the car one night on a …. date. Date my ass. CIA got nothing on ME. It was what I needed to Sever the heart strings. Believe me it isn’t easy and you will be devastated. Good luck
Should i break up with him for good?
I been with my boyfriend for five years now. He told me he cheated on me. He also said that he isnt talking to the girl anymore, and that he wants to make something with me. What should i do? Forgive him, or break up with him?
Once a cheater…. always a cheater.
I have been trying to collect information on my husband going on 2 yrs now. We have been married 39 yrs. Started dating when I was 14 , he 15. Now 3 grown children. We have always been best friends, lovers etc. Wonderful marriage. 6 yrs ago I was in a horrible car accident and became disabled. He had taken a job and had to travel. Worked 9 days home 4. Our whole marriage changed. I never had reason to doubt him but I was busy with kids and job. Now I think he’s been cheating all along and has become a heck of a liar.
I got suspicious about 2 yrs ago. He never wanted sex. Which was opposite from our whole marriage. Never could get enough.
In one yr had sex 7 times. Said he had ED. I made him a md appointment. He did not want me to go which has always not been the case. When he came home said he was too embarrassed to mention it to Doctor.
Then I started pulling phone logs. To my surprised many suspicious numbers especially those of a co worker. I noticed a pattern. He would call me then her, then several locations of ppl I dont know. Then no calls at all for 2 to3 hrs. Then he would call me.
So I brought it up to him . He got angry said I was crazy etc.
Then he went out of town for a job that had to be dont non stop. I saw him 9 days in 3 months.
When he came home there was no eye contact, he was anxious acted like he didnt want to talk to me. He was rude and very a secretive.
The numbers on phone log were fake number. When I tried to trace them nothing could be traced. But one thing that didnt change was the pattern.
I have driven myself crazy. I have traced thousands of numbers. I am at my waits end and dont know what to do. He will not admit to anything.
I need advice.
Please give me advice.