Could you be wasting your time on an emotionally unavailable partner?

Let’s assume for a moment that there is this lovely couple you spot out in public, they seem really cute together and might even be “relationship goals” for some on the outer surface. What you don’t see however is behind the scenes.

Most of the time when they are doing things together, especially out in the public eye, things seem great, but there is a big issue under the rug for these two. The guy involved tends to do things like disappear for extended periods of time, often on a very regular basis. He’ll do things like not reply to text messages in any reliable manner, doesn’t call when most other people would consider it courteous to do so and every time the subject of his behaviour comes up he might apologize and put on a good show for a while but then it’s back to neglect soon after.

 

The question is “why is he like this?” and the answer could be something as basic as he’s an emotionally unavailable male who will string that poor girl along, potentially for years if she’ll allow it. Here are a few signs to look for so you can better decide if you too are dealing with someone of this nature.

 

They might be married or in a committed relationship

This one is usually pretty obvious but you would be surprised how many people get suckered into the charm of these sneaky types of people. Not only are they cheating on their significant other, their prior long-term commitment, but they’re dragging you into the pot with them and this could lead to problems down the line.

You really just never know when they’re have to run off for a dance recital at their kid’s school. Or maybe there’s a big wedding anniversary event planned which you of course have no clue about because you’re the person on the side. It’s reasonable to understand that you may be dealing with a total charmer here but let’s face it, they’re only wasting your time in the end and you’ve got to remind yourself who they’re really going home to at the end of the night… it’s not you.

 

They’re only in it for the sex

What you decide to do is up to you, that goes for all of us of course. But what about when it’s obvious you’re not in it “just for sex” and they keep leading you on in that special way which lures you into their charms? This typically goes for guys more than anything, but if it’s very evident the person you’re with only chooses to get lovey-dovey with you when they’re certain it’s going to lead to some physical action, it may be time to move on.

 

They could be an addict

This one might seem a bit harsh in some cases but the truth of the matter is that most people who are addicted to something, be it sex, drugs of some sort, even alcohol in many cases can cause a lot of hardship inside of a relationship. They often come with baggage you don’t want in your own life and could regularly be preoccupied by whatever their addiction draws them to.

 

Do they prefer a long distance relationship

It seems like the further you two are, the better things are for them. With the ability to text and send cute little messages back and forth while being able to edit one’s words before hitting that ‘send button’ that time waster feels like they are on easy street.

The truth is that most long distance relationships simply don’t last very long, they just don’t workout. Sometimes the person you’re with might even be counting on this fact and you’re going to wind up just another name on a checklist. If you feel like the long distance relationship you’re in is going nowhere and the person you’re involved with is distant with their emotions then it may be time to reconsider.