Somewhere along the line, you realized your spouse or partner was cheating. This is one of the world’s worst realizations and the terrible part is that you’re faced with the options of 1) just leaving at these suspicions, which is difficult because this is a person you love 2) allowing it to continue, or 3) finally confronting the person about it.
The last I personally recommend because of the satisfaction in the ousting process. It is an unbelievable feeling when you get to point out how they have no where to go for excuses and no way of smooth talking another lie to cover it up. It doesn’t make the pain of the previous months of suffering go away but it is empowering.
The art of making a goal, following through and watching it come full circle. That’s what we’re doing here, helping you make it come around to a full circle. Let’s see how the cheater likes being lied to and deceived. I guarantee they don’t appreciate their privacy being invaded or realizing how closely they could be monitored and not even realize it.
So there are two types of proof, and if you have enough conclusive evidence, it is just as good as physical proof. What you’re looking for with conclusive proof is something that eliminates any shadow of a doubt. A text that says “I love you babe” or anything with a higher maturity rating. Text messages that include racy photos or anything noting that the context needed to be changed because you were nearby would also be a red flag. How do you get this sort of proof? It’s actually pretty easy. Technology has definitely helped out the cheaters with finding new hook ups and hideouts but it’s helped far more for those looking to catch a cheater. Tracking and monitoring are your ‘go to’ options for proving that something is up.
One Stop Proof
Your one stop proof is to establish that there have been a series of lies, and that the only distinguishable answer is them seeing someone outside of the relationship. You want text messages, social media accounts, images, photos that are otherwise hidden. Gone are the days that your husband taking a call from a number you didn’t recognize would raise suspicion. Now you can obtain access to the entire background of those text messages, online social profiles, or the interactions they’re having on other social networks you never heard of. No guess work, or supposing what they must be up to. It’s plain and present.
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Another way to get proof is in the form of apps. This is really convenient because everyone has one and they’re never without their mobile device. Every device now is GPS tracking enabled and many apps work to record this data and report it to you. There are also a number of apps like Teen Safe that allow you to view virtually everything on their phone. Never be prompted to quickly ravage through their messages while the cheater is in another room and has access to it at your leisure.
Physical evidence is that once in a lifetime, as seen on TV play out of the wife catching the husband cheating. So short of walking in on your significant other and the mysterious other in the act, there’s a small amount of proof that is absolutely irrefutable.
Many spy shops and online stores have hidden cameras that appear and function as everyday objects that video record your home. If the wife seems to be tidying up in the bedroom and there are fresh sheets down quite often then it might be a good idea to put in a video camera alarm clock. You’ll have full video access to everything that’s happening within the camera’s view at any point in time.
There are also applications for mobile devices such as My Truth Spy that record ambient sounds. Some noises are pretty indistinguishable and we’re pretty sure you could pick out your partner’s, fun times sounds, from most others. If he brings into question as to where it was obtained feel free to inform him that it was on his phone.
This, I’ve heard of in movies as I’m sure we all have and once in real life! I’m really excited about the real life thing. So, a great new advancement of today’s development is that these cheaters are not trying to cover up one receipt… but many. That’s right, hotels, rent a cars, even tons of restaurants are doing it now. When you check into a hotel, even a slummy one, they usually not only give you a paper receipt but also send one to your email. These same hotels require you pay with a credit card that can be setup to have alerts when purchases are made or confirmed.
This is brilliant. You could be sitting at home and suddenly, *ding* a credit card that has yours and your spouse’s names on it has alerted you that you’ve made a purchase. There’s no way to explain away a hotel room when they’re supposed to be at work is there?
This is possibly the most terrifying part of the whole process. It was scary in the beginning when you didn’t know what you would find. Now you have to tell him. Be direct, but also be an adult. Be in a public place, you never know what can happen when someone’s hidden so much of their life from you. Most importantly, let him know that he’s been caught. Not that you know he’s been fooling around, but that he has been caught cheating.
Don’t Be Talked Down
These guys, or girls… they’re smooth talkers. First, you fell in love with them, their words and behaviors. Then, their words and behaviors hurt you, so don’t listen to anything they have to say that sounds like their trying to backtrack or talk you down. Many start out not being defensive, because that’s clearly a sign of confirmation. “Hey honey, you know I wouldn’t do that. Why don’t you calm down.” or the famous “I’m not dignifying that, I can’t believe you would accuse me of cheating”. Well this is why it’s important to let them know they’ve been caught, you’re not accusing anything; you’re confirming something with evidence.
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