10 Absolutely Unforgivable Lies Any Cheater Will Tell You
Every liar spins a web of lies that they use to support themselves, to cover their tracks and just keep that trail of absolute nonsense blazing behind them. The good news is that the “art form” of cheating is just as old as lying and if you know what the common lies are that most cheaters tell you’ll be far better equipped to handle them and beat them at their own game.
1. I took a 2nd job on the side
If you get this one then it’s pretty easy to ask them “well, where’s the 2nd check? If they can’t produce it then you caught them right on the spot! If they thought it through then you could always dig a bit deeper and find out where this supposed “2nd job” actually is and all that. But, I would keep the detective work hidden in the background. Check THIS PAGE out real quick if you want some tools to help you out.
2. I’ve got to work late again tonight
Right… and every night for the past few weeks? Who do you think you’re kidding with that one buddy because it isn’t me. This one is a bit more difficult to catch them on in many cases but if the opportunity arises and it’s necessary then looking into it might be in your benefit.
3. I was just texting a friend / co-worker
If your significant other is always on that texting machine then you might have to consider their really popular with somebody- the question is who? Yeah, friends text all the time but let’s face facts here. There reaches a point when texting becomes excessive and suspicious so just keep an eye out for this one. If they’re getting texts at all hours of the day or night and it’s something you know isn’t the “norm” for them then there is something not exactly right going on here.
4. Yeah, everything’s fine
Is it? Is everything just fine or are you just having a brain fart right now and don’t know how to properly respond to a question so to buy some time you just threw out a generic answer? I’m willing to bet it’s the buying time thing, especially if there was no follow-up to that with a bit more details on what’s really going on.
5. I was just out with some friends
You’ll have to feel this one out because it may very well be true. What he was doing with said friends however, who’s to really say.
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6. She’s just a friend
Again, this could be completely true but what sort of “friend” is she exactly, who’s to say for sure. It’s not the wisest thing to become overly suspicious of your significant other but in the hopefully unlikely event that your partner is mixed up in something unsavory you might want to look into it for yourself as best you can just so you can put those suspicions to rest or know they’re correct.
7. She understands me (or) she just gets me
Well isn’t that convenient for the both of you. I’m sure she “gets you” quite well and that’s just fantastic for you. What about the person who you’re actually supposed to confide in and share things with, what about your partner, what about you! If your significant other is going to someone else for emotional support, especially if it’s to talk about the hardships your relationship may be going through then you can count that as a huge red flag.
8. It’s not what it looks like
Yeah, we all know about this one and it’s a pretty common one I’m sorry to say. Let me just put this out there by saying that sure, there is a slight chance it’s really not all that bad, it’s ‘not what it looks like” but the unfortunate truth is that most of the time it’s exactly what it looks like. You just weren’t supposed to see it.
9. You’re cheating on me, aren’t you?
Cheaters and liars expect to be cheated on and lied to. It’s hard for them not to view the world in this way because it’s how they navigate through it themselves. Also, shifting blame is a really great way to take some of the heat off of yourself for a while which gives them time to think up an even better lie.
10. I still love you (or) I just didn’t want to hurt you
If you’ve caught them in the act of cheating and they give this sob story about how they don’t want to hurt you and blah blah then they’re probably not somebody you want to continue on with in the future. The thing about people who can’t remain faithful to the one they supposedly “love” is that they have this constant need for validation and they’re willing to go through great lengths to get it, even if that means cheating on the “one they love.”
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My fiance phone was ringing at 6 am in the morning and I picked up his phone and rejected it then something told me to look through his phone. Found out he was sexting this woman nicknamed Jiggles. I forgave him and took him back that was July 2. Then in November he was suppose to take me to pick up a turkey and food I called to remind him the night before and he tells me he is driving(on the road as we are talking) a woman friend and her kids to North Carolina I’m totally done!!!
Iktr. I would of been done w/his a** to….
My wife’s been cheating on me, but has been hiding it from me using my past against me!! Won’t except any blame for the state of our relationship and puts all the blame on me!! I believe she’s been on some site or app that does random hookups for sex!! I love her so much!! She says she loves me, but it doesn’t feel like love! When she can go for hours without textn me or one phone call, she use too call n text me all the time! It hurts that she continues to try n pull the wool over my eyes and play on my intelligence, how do i make it stop?? We’ve got 16 yrs vested in our marriage!! I don’t want to lose my wife!! I’ve even went so far as to try to catch her on some site’s by making profiles that seem genuinely real so i can hear the backlash, it’s been a nightmare, help me!!!
I’m replying to u in hopes u have gotten some good advice!…???
Ur story kinda sounds like mine (at least about them going on hook up sites to just fuck) I found this out cuz he forgot his phone a couple time when he went to the store.
Me and him met on a dating/games/etc. (Kinda like Facebook but more for adults only) it’s called Moco space. I still on on from time to time but mostly to see if he’s been on and left any messages to any girls that have posted there pic’s for everyone to see. I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY HE IS STILL SEXTEXTING WITH GIRLS AN VIDEO CHATTING (JACKING OFF) HE SAYS HE LOVES ME AND I DO BELIEVE HIM THAT HE LOVES ME (to much to text to prove it) *BUT IT ALL MAKES ME THINK HE IS JUST SETTLING FOR ME RIGHT NOW TILL HE FINDS SOMEONE HE WANTS TO BE WITH THAT HE THINKS IS BETTER THAN ME AND HE’LL BE ON HE’S WAY TO BEING WITH THEM!!! ->making it out like it’s my fault cuz I have alot of emotional issues & I’m tripping.
*I’m insecure & have low self esteem but him chatting on those sites don’t help any…. Oh and I didn’t even get in to the texts he has sent some of his so call only friends (that are girls) one of them he admitted to me that he was starting to fall in love with her but she said it was to soon after her husband died for her to be with any one. Another girl he texted “it’s nothing serious” and I had a lot of guy friends like he has girls that are only friends and I changed my phone number to prove they dont mean anything and don’t have any thing to hide he can go on my phone and I’ll tell him to…if I’m busy and let him do what ever for him self….BUT IF I GO ON HIS PHONE OR HE FALLS ASLEEP WITH HIS PHONE IN HIS HAND WITH THE APP HE WAS IN STILL ON HIS PHONE AND IM ABLE TO SEE HE WAS IN ONE OF THOSE SITES OR TEXTING ANOTHER GIRL…” HE GETS ALL MAD LIKE IM INTRUDING IN ON HIS PRIVACY!!!
Wow I have had the saMe problem for 6 years I thought I wAs the only one it all started I met him on line on POF never have I been on a dating site in my life but my girlfriend at work said let me make you a profile so that’s where it all began this guy new when I was on line every time anyways I go meet him it was a instant hit from their he ask me to move in with him I did I get on his phone theirs no messages but everything is strange to me he has gone as far as hacking me portraying me on some men dating sites so I don’t know if he’s bi sexual but he uses my email to pick up women on dating sites and, lies about it relegusly he goes to the bathroom every morning in their 30-45 minutes I think on cam with nasty women so I can relate to the girl before me feeling like your just waiting to be thrown out much more to this but I can’t go on like this
My story’s pretty similar. I’m so devastated . I knew what was going on I just never wanted to know. He is my world I adore love need him . I don’t know how to cope. He made up some reason to fight and kick me out again. And I would kill for him die for him. But my best I guess is not good enough. I am so lost . I text I call he ignores me like I never existed in his life. That hurts so bad. I almost killed my self over this. I can’t eat I can’t go any where every thing reminds me of him places we want things we did . I don’t know if I can survive without him. I don’t want to service with out him . I don’t want life if it’s not gonna be with him . Why am I not good enough??? It hurts so bad!!!! It’s making me crazy . Really crazy!!! I’m sure you all understand how am I supposed get out of bed . Or go outside . I’m even be normal. I’m really not ok. Thanx k
not sure you will read this ever, but you are not alone, this is truly the worst thing that can happen to a person, it is worse than any physical injury by a long shot. you are paralyzed and it feels like your dying or want to die. If you can ease that pain a few minutes and realize that this is unfortunately something that many have gone through, just like you, you may for a moment just have one fleeting moment where you can believe you can do it. i practiced trying to have 1 minute a day to find a reason why i could be better off , and then i built up to two minutes. i even set my timer, and forced myself to think only of why i was glad he was gone, i didn’t really mean a word i thought but it truly began to take hold just a little, it took me many many months but i had to start somewhere, start with a minute. time yourself, tell you self you deserve better or something, and force out any back talk you try to have during that minute. you will gain strength, but patient with yourself. its okay to go into hiding for a long time. when you feel stronger, take small steps to reward yourself for getting over something that is so momumental it deserves praise and rewards. Good luck to you sweeethart, i have been there.
I’ve got a keylogger on my phone, which my husband also uses. I’ve caught him texting his female friend stating that he wanted some of her friend and also stating that he’s surprised that his friend and him have not had sex yet. But he swears he’s never actually cheated on me. And his Google maps showed places he wasn’t supposed to be and swears google maps is wrong. What to believe?
Honey Google maps is not wrong!! I’ve heard the same exact thing too many times!! And you caught him in the act, no matter if they had not had sex yet, he was panning on it, and that’s enough!! You desirve better sweetie!!! Good luck!!
What is a kylogger and can I put it on my husband phone without him knowing
I just got out of a 4 ur relationship, with one of the most deceitful human beings I have ever come a crossed. I literally drove myself insane searching for the truth! He was such a master at his game, and loved the reactions he got out of me. I loved him so much, and thought maybe if I give him time, he’ll pick me over his hookups and secret life? Not the case, the more time I put in, the more he was able to make me look like a lunatic. It was perfect for him! Even though he lived at his grandma’s, had no job, and lied about EVERYTHING! The time, energy, and love I put into the relationship only gave him the ammunition he needed to manipulate others, all the while making me out to be the pos. It’s mind blowing that there are so many people that live their lives this way!? My eyes are wide open now, and that shit will never happen to me again. But wow!? Wtf!??! It was so painful, and one sided, I wrote men off for good! Thanks for reading, and I appreciate any feedback or comments… Thanks Jesse
That sounds like exactly what I’m going through right now
Omg, you’re living my life.
I’m so fed up with his lies, I can’t take it anymore. He’s a pathological liar and a sociopath.
Wow everything that I’m going threw right now and I’m literally going insane! Idk what to do anymore….I know wat he does on his phone and wish I could get in his phone without him knowing or while he’s sleeping but it’s hard and things are hidden and don’t know wat to do from here.
I swear these men are EVERYWHERE!!! Just found out my bf of 2 years is cheating on me for the 2nd time. I cannot believe this is happening…again! He says I’m the one lying and cheating but it’s clearly him. Idk until reading this that’s how cheaters navigate thru life? Makes perfect sense. Now, if I can just put my broken heart back together and carry on w the rest of my life…without him.
It’s definitely easier said than done!
Is this guy having a girls name? I just got left on sat. It was because he “was sick of being accused all the time” he was not accused, its the I DON’T KNOW WHAT HAPPENED TO MY TRUCK. Put TONS of miles on my dodge, Tons of damage, and took it off road many times. And he says ” I left it parked in the same place all day” He took his work truck out with him. When he moved out in April, he saw me quite little(but we were still together) and he started keeping his phone with him at all times. He gets texts all the time and when i ask who is that, he snaps at me(vocally) We have been living to gether since dec ’16. Before that he moved out April ’16. We were living together since july 12, 2014
It’s not just these men. It’s both …I’m just learning about my gf of two yrs.
Hidden lies. Been apart for 2 months now. I’m doing my best to move on. I find myself up set, hurt, and just led on also lied to. I don’t know what else to say. It’s been hard to let go when you develop strong feelings and you care about them let alone fall in love.
All just seems like it’s the way it is out there. I just so disappointed l let this happend. I take part of the blame…
OH MY JEEZ’S !!!!! That’s. EXACTLY what I’m going through. Ive thought about putting an app in his phone just so I could confront him WITH PROOF!!
One of the times I confronted him he said ” Rhats not me (on video) unless its a full face shot, it isn’t me” And what REALLY gets to him is I ask what happened to my truck? And he has LAME answers. All this “man” does is LIE!! If I didn’t know his(part of) his family, I’d think his birthday was a lie too! Boy, I hope what I wanna do works. Till then I’ll have AWESOME (one on one time!!) Since he moved out. In Nov, he hasn’t come around much. Oh well. I guess get what you ask for……..
18years of marriage and four kids and he sleeps with my younger sister and had affair in my bed while I was working then three years with a girl who helped him destroy mine and kids lives lost our house and everything we had I was a stay at home parent with two autistic kids and was in car accident and was life flown to hospital for head injury all the while I was going thru this he was cheating and making me look like a complete villain it’s all my fault my five year old son caught him putting pills on my coffee still Denys it I am a liar and craY still going thru divorce and I find out his best friend is a internet hacker programmer now all my evidence gets erased and he still try’s to convince me I’m fucking out of my mind he is completely innocent and a product of my mental abuse accusing him and deistic violence is what he claims now he has left us with no home and no money and nothing all so he can say I told you not to leave me it’s lie how could you be so cruel to your children now he is seeking custody so yea I can’t believe I was so blind and loved him so much I kept trusting him to be ok with me and children what an ass
I think i must have dated his dad.. lol he did have his own place, but he was so deceitful and i about drove myself crazy looking for answers… then he made me second guess actual facts that i had. they would met in walmart parking lot.. she would get into his car … and one day when i seen her car there i paged her.. of course she wasn’t at walmart.. so i called him, within 12 min she came running through the store right to her car.. she went in the car service entrance and out the front doors.. but he swears he hasn’t talked to her since way before we got together.. when i first found out about her.. he accidentally called me her name.. 2 days later she shows up at my job… but he swears he has not talked to her. I wake up in the middle of the night to his back towards me and his head lit up by his cell phone… he is texting her… she is also married.. my big question.. do i tell her husband??? he knew of their affair years ago.(2004).i am not sure if my pos ever even dumped her or if this just started again…
That is fantastic to hear…never look back it is the most painful experience of my life …I mean how could someone convince you believe in them so much loving them with all your heart to have them destroy your soul …when I read your story and was like wow this really is a thing and people truly can be so aweful without a care for if they are hurting you or not…in fact they don’t care at all and never will …it’s such a stength in character to know your worth and value .. yep I was taken down by the master con artist. It’s like they mastered the art a manipulation to the tee…and you find yourself falling for it over and over again til one day the light bulb goes on and your like wait a minute the hell with this I’m way better than this and take back what they stole from you which was your pride and interest .
I get the blame thrown back at me if i make a comment she get super mad i cant even make conversation she dont even care but she want to talkabout other people and what they said or done and that has all her attention or she stuck on snapchat also she has even respond to her boss its nice to be reconized and apprecated had always talking and laughing with him and not me what you think
Sounds like you are living my life. Maybe my husband and your wife deserve each other. They sound just alike
34 yrs of marriage and 4 kids this is the 3rd time I’ve caught him cheating and it’s always with someone he works with. This time I had suspicions but couldn’t get his phone as he guarded it with his life by some miracle someone hacked his Facebook and sent me messages from his messenger. Really wish I knew who it was so I could thank them. Anyway he won’t except any responsibility or any blame. It’s all my fault and the person who hacked him. He shows no remorse and gets mad if I say anything. I love him and don’t want to throw my marriage away and he says he loves me but I can’t live like this anymore. Help! What do I do when he won’t admit that what he done was wrong?
I have to admit i have searched his phone several times which proved he was cheating when confronted he still denied i have learned he is a narcisist i have really looked into his behavior and researched it now i am able to understand why he is the way he is. He had a roughchildhood and life. I pray forhim daily but i now know its not me. And that is what has woken me up. He is my love of my life yet i know i deserve more.
I too am experiencing the same sh*****
Im going through all the above..but I can’t get to his phone he never leaves it laying around the has a block on it…I need help
Me too any advice? He tells me today 3 days ago he got a random text but says dont know who it is? Im good and remembering numbers but i didnt see it. He told me 2 d8ffrent area codes said he didnt know them. His phone constantly going off. Diffrent tones. Also same named for supposed same people just like one letter or set backwards on contact list? I’m like I thought bobs name was bobby? But u have 2 and they are different numbers and you say.its same person. I’m the bread winner. The cars are mine I’ve pd for them yet he feels entitled? I found out too late he won’t work wtf? Is he cheating ? He has 2 exes one I think he talks with.
I was once told that we want the one that don’t want you, I was in a 20yr marriage but together 22 four kids and she had been with all my guy friends but they was so much a friend none of them was man enough to tell me anything, but one friend that I had known longer then my wife, they had been seeing each other the whole time her and I was together, I could tell alot more, but you ppl don’t have a week to listen, it hurts deep an your heart feels so empty.